Embracing Rejection
What is your first memory of being rejected? Does it still make you cringe? When was the last time you didn't go for something because you just couldn't hack the crushing risk of potential rejection?
So many of us are terrified of rejection, holding multiple rejection memories from adolescence, & we can all agree, it not a fun time.
But ladies... we can upgrade our emotional intelligence here! We can flip the script & learn to actually embrace rejection. It really is a driving force behind our subconscious behaviours & learning to navigate rejection is a game changer.
Firstly, can we get behind the belief that rejection isn't actually harmful. Not really. You are not in danger. It's just uncomfortable. We forget this distinction between pain & discomfort. There is actually a lot of progress, opportunity, growth & evolution that can be extracted from rejection.
Coaching Call
Reflections
What is your earliest memory of rejection?
How did you feel at the time?
What did you believe this meant?
How do you feel about it now?
Where have you attached your self-worth to the outcome of an event?
When have you been rejected but not really cared?
What does a meaningful life look like for you?
In this vision, does it require you to put yourself out there?
Would you be vulnerable to criticism, rejection or misinterpretation?
If so, are you willing to move through that potential discomfort?
What achievements have built your confidence in life?
Was there a risk of rejection?
What ‘failures’ have crushed your confidence?
Have your experiences of rejection defined you?
Who do you want to be in the face of rejection?
What are you really passionate about?
What is the next thing you want that is worth risking rejection for?
When have you given up on something because it didn’t align with your expectations or timelines?
Create your Rejection Event Chart
Make a graph (Emotions // Age)
Plot your rejection events along the timelines & rate the height of emotion in your body.
Journal about the events that still linger in your emotional body.
What stories / beliefs did they create?
What were your reactions?
Rejection Therapy Experiment
For the next 30 days go & intentionally seek out rejection.
Invites / favours / dates / applications / proposals / pay rises / social media / emails / in person
Treat this like a social experiment & aim to desensitise from the discomfort.
Notice your reactions to rejection.
Do you run? Do you make assumptions? Do you create a story?
What can you learn? Ask & answer questions. Address any doubts.
Get honest with yourself, do you energetically back your desires?
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